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Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

NLP Master — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 13:57:58 -0000

Yes Everton, sometimes, simply admitting your vulnerabilities disarms them. It's the ultimate charm!

It's worked for me even with the mythical HB10s that the PUA community likes to idolize

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Ella — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 13:23:43 -0000

Jesus, with all the people here calling the woman a "bitch" for rejecting an email like this, is there any wonder they posted it? This is exactly why sending someone this kind of email is controlling. While it appears old-fashioned and sweet on the surface, when you consider that the guy barely knows the woman, that she has NO obligation to say yes to him, it's clearly just putting her in a bad situation.

Men who do this deserve to be mocked and ridiculed. It is not possible to be in love with a person you have just met. It is possible to be interested in them and find them attractive, yes. But love takes time, it requires actually knowing the person well, and understanding who they are. Anyone who claims to love you this much is either a)just trying to get in your pants or b)not in touch with reality. This isn't cynicism, it's the truth. It's important that someone be in love with YOU, and not the IDEA of you.

In the 1800's women were placed on a pedestal and "love," IMO, was usually more an expression of interest in finding a suitable mate, as well as an obsession over the abstract idea of love for the woman. Quite frankly I think it is much better now, when people are less likely to fool themselves and see the woman as a full person--actually focusing on the woman herself.

This guy is not being honest with her or with himself. He's a creep. And I DON'T think he has a good heart.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Everton — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 13:54:17 -0000

Sometimes it helps when you just approach and say â€œYou make me nervous, but I just had to say hi.â€

Strange but true. This happened to me once. I was in a club and I walked past this girl who was so beautiful I nearly fell over. I went back and said 'I couldn't walk past someone as beautiful as you and not at least say hello' She must have known I was being genuine, particularly as I nearly fell over in front of her, so when I turned to walk away, she took me by the hand and asked me to stay...

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Common Sense — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 12:45:36 -0000

Is this a man or a wuss? I vote wuss.

He doesn't know her... He is practically telling her that he is obsessed with her... He clearly scared her... Not to mention he was spouting poetry and that is a sign of desperation to any young lady.

I'm not trying to rag on this guy too much because we've all been there at some point. Every guy has screwed himself over with a girl but the smart ones learn from their mistakes. For those of you who DON'T think he made a mistake, the only thing I have to do to destroy all your arguements is to point out the reaction of the girl who recieved this email.

So what should he have done?

He should have shown her enough respect not to use an email to try and get a date and confess his obsession. Email is good for getting someone's number or to get them to call you. Use the phone to schedule a date. I don't think that admitting you are obsessed with someone is ever the best way to build a relationship (at least not a healthy one) but if you are going to do it, at least have the balls to do it face to face.

It really does seem like the guy is "nice" and has a good heart. Unfortunately, he is also coming across as desperate and insecure. Not a good combo.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

NLP Master — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 12:14:50 -0000

Sometimes it helps when you just approach and say "You make me nervous, but I just had to say hi."

Sincerity helps. Lots!

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Ben — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 17:21:20 -0000

On the same note, I personally would have stopped right where he said he should of, the guy got balls, but no sense at all!

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Ben — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 17:17:06 -0000

I honestly think the guy has got balls of steel to open his heart like that to a girl, what on earth is wrong with that????
Boo Hiss Nay to the heartless bitch who decided it would be funny to publish it and embarrass this guy who has just payed her the biggest compliment of her life, makes me sad to think that even so called intelligent women can be so cold...

I hope she dies a lonely old spinster, that is all she deserves

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Dollarman — Sun, 05 Nov 2006 07:20:25 -0000

Everton, I quote: "I think his Ã¢â‚¬ËœrapÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ is bit too sloppy but judging by the reaction heÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s getting and by the fact that some girls are calling and asking him out (his mobile number is in the email) maybe I should start using his style!"

Unless there are photos that come with those phone calls of proposals I'd steer well clear.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Dollarman — Sun, 05 Nov 2006 07:17:26 -0000

I am one for being confidently direct (but not too much). For one, that's how I like to be approached and two, mainly because you don't get drawn into the sometimes long process of working out whether this person is into you or not while at the same time being polite. The round about way is just another extension of mind games which I think should be only used for sales techniques.

I find when you don't beat about the bush it is (mostly) appreciated.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

matt — Mon, 21 Aug 2006 04:16:07 -0000

That ain't nice at all. What a bitch whore for behaving in such a fashion. I hope the slapper never gets a date again.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Ella — Fri, 04 Aug 2006 13:31:49 -0000

his email as incredibly manipulative, and it is really rude to send something like this to a person you have just met. It's like people who say "I love you" on a first date. No, you don't. The familiarity is completely uncalled for.

by going so much over the top it tells you

1) he is living in his head
2) he will not accept no for an answer, and is placing her in a position where she will feel like the guilty party if she refuses, or doesn't like him
3) he probably just wants to get in her pants

this guy is creepy, and while it was well written, I think he deserves what he gets. If he had tact and consideration for her feelings, he really would have "just stopped there."

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Joesappyloser — Thu, 03 Aug 2006 13:12:59 -0000

but over here in America, we'd never actually write a letter to a girl telling her we've placed her in our spank bank.

I think any girl would be grossed out and disgusted by that information. Best to keep it to yourself.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Joesappyloser — Thu, 03 Aug 2006 13:07:14 -0000

Regardless of whether we see each other again, I will use it as I do my other special memories. I will call on it when I am disheartened or low. I will hold it in my heart when I need inspiration. I will keep it with me for moments when I need to find a smile of my own.

Over here in america, it's called a "spank bank", the "special memories" of all the hot girls you've seen, for when you're alone with your hand and a bottle of jergens. ;)

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Maurice — Thu, 03 Aug 2006 03:54:43 -0000

Or Kate Winsall is badly regretting that she sent the mail to her sister and consequently extremely upset with her sister that she forwarded it so it became "public", or Kate and her sister are both fake and heartless women that do not deserve any comment at all, and less a letter from a guy like Joe. I would like to believe the first and not the second.

About some of the comments on this page including the "editor's" critera of what is ethical to publish and what is not, one must not be surprised, luckily not the entire world is as rotten as these few individuals want to make it. Pathetic!

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

allan — Fri, 28 Jul 2006 20:32:17 -0000

wow can this guy poor on the sap anymore. If i were to send this message to a woman i would be slapped with a restraining order or if she did end up meeting me i would hope it would just be to kick me where my balls used to be... the message was more heartwarmingly sick than an episode of full house. Im going to go purge my dinner now that i feel so sick

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Lisa — Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:02:25 -0000

You sad, sad people. Why don't you all go out and get life? Why is it of such interest you? You freaks.

As for her Ex, methinks the man doth protest too much. Why does it bother you so much what your ex is up to? Could it be that you're still bitter about the fact she dumped you for another fella? Perhaps you didn't 'measure' up little boy? You would be better off spending your time crying into your pillow and wetting the bed repeated night after night over her than trawling the internet looking for her. Funny how you took the time to find her on this site isn't if you truly ain't bothered? I hope you ain't got another girlfriend at the moment, cos if I was her I'd dump you straight off than stay with a boyfriend so obviously cut up about his ex dumping him that he feels the need to post comments about her on random websites. Come back when your balls have dropped little boy and then people might listen to your whining.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Kronocide — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 18:26:41 -0000

I don't understand how you can publish the guy's phone number and email. There is just no justification for that.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

RooBot — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 18:22:35 -0000

Everton, I appreciate this is your site and whatnot..

But how about you don't? :)

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Everton Blair — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 18:12:24 -0000

Sorry I've been so busy this week I haven't been checking the site so I missed all these comments. I'm having problems posting the full email (I think my own spam filters are stopping me because of the number of emails), so if you want an original then email me at admin@connectedinternet.co.uk.

The full email I received will be posted here once I've worked out how to beat my own spam filters!

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

RooBot — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 10:30:38 -0000

Sentient..

'The less you need others, the more they will be attracted to you.'

How true, and it works both ways.

Thankfully my super-fiancee and I worked that out many moons ago :).

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Karin — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 08:37:25 -0000

Can I have a copy of the original e-mail with headers?

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Sentient — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 07:55:34 -0000

Too bad the poor fellow hasn't yet realized the all-important fact that girls don't want a sensitive man who cares about their feelings. To all of you girls who are now immediately getting the sudden urge to say I'm full of shit; untangle your panties and calm down. As much as you think otherwise, It's not a matter of opinion, but that of evolutionary biology. The unfortunate fact of the matter (and just about every other social matter) is this:

The less you need others, the more they will be attracted to you.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

Jens — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 06:01:43 -0000

"I just rung this dude and his mobile number is legitÃ¢â‚¬Â¦. He answered and I told him I was a publisher and I wanted him to narrate a book titled Ã¢â‚¬Å“how to vomit 101Ã¢â‚¬Â³. He said email him the details. I love this guyÃ¢â‚¬Â¦." [Dave Chapman]

Well, that's what I call a stalker.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

RooBot — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 00:15:06 -0000

Derek..

'I don't know about you Roobot, but i prefer to have an equal at my side and not someone who doesn't know me drooling over my nut sack. Acting like that can only lead to failure.'

You're right, you don't know about me.. so please don't presume you do.

Much of your reply made little sense to be honest, and I'm not quite sure where to begin.

So I won't, begin.

I will say that you seem to be confusing good old fashioned romance with, well, I'm not sure what.

What you're saying is the great romantic poets of the age were nothing more than stalkers wanting to get laid?

That's really rather sad mister.

Re: How To Ask A Girl Out (In A Round About Way)

DSW1705 — Wed, 26 Jul 2006 19:44:04 -0000

Why are you lot putting the blame on this gezzer? Surely he was lead on... sounds like a nice (YES Sensitive) bloke...